Things No One Told me about being married

Today, while I was washing dishes, it occured to me that there are downsides of marriage that no one ever mentioned to me.

You see, no one ever mentioned to me how much I would miss my family. How much I would just miss home. Its funny because there was a particular dish I was washing that made me realize just how much I had missed my parents home when I got married.

A lady at church is in the process of moving and she had cleaned out her kitchen. She gave some random kitchen items that have turned out to be very useful. One of the things that she gave me was a plastic tupperware measuring bowl like my mom had. When I was growing up my mom used that  very dish a lot whether it was to actually measure things in or just to store lettuce in. That dish was rather comforting to me and today I realized just how much I wished my kitchen was my mom’s kitchen.

It also spoke to me about the importance of Luke feeling at home as well. As a wife I should be taking notice of little things that might make him feel more comfortable in our home because they remind him, even if only subconsciously, of pleasant childhood memories or just of home.

I just marvelled about how much I really did miss my family and the way that they do things. I love to hang my laundry up because my mom always did. I don’t need a better reason, but it does save a lot of money and keeps the clothes in better condition.  But just the hanging up and un-hanging of the clothes produces this familiar feeling of home.

I do not want to copy exactly everything that my mom did, and I have definitely been influenced a lot by Luke. But this whole realization gives me a new perspective on leaving a legacy for my child(ren).

What things will my child(ren) remember that they will want to keep doing when they move out? Will it be practical things (like hanging up clothes) that will benefit them, or will it be my bad habits?

I see so much of my mom’s smart habits that I want to duplicate and build on and I am so thankful that she gave me that legacy and heritage. She is a hard-working woman at home keeping my father’s house and she is a wonderful example to me in many ways.


About Melanie

My Being Purpose Statement: As a part of Christ's Bride and as one of His precious treasures whom He redeemed with His precious blood, I purpose in my heart to love and adore Him with all of my heart, soul, and mind (Matthew 22:37). I want to be beautiful in the sight of my Saviour, Jesus Christ. I will therefore pursue holiness (1 Peter 1:16) that I might worship the Lord in the beauty of holiness (1 Chronicles 16:29, Psalms 96:9) and go and proclaim His love, sacrifice and salvation to others who have not heard that I may have the beautiful feet of them that bring glad tidings of good things (Isaiah 52:7, Romans 10:15). My Life Purpose Statement: I desire to serve my Redeemer and Savior Jesus Christ throughout my entire life by ministering to girls and women. I pray that I will be able to bring many girls and women to the Cross of Christ that they may find salvation from a loving and gracious Savior. It is my heart’s desire to encourage girls and women who know the Savior to deepen their relationship with Him and to fall more and more in love with Him. I also want to serve women by assisting them in their everyday lives whether I am rolling up my sleeves to work alongside them or am connecting them with people, ministries, and or resources that will be helpful and beneficial to them. By God’s grace and power, through His Spirit, and for His glory will I endeavor to fulfill this purpose
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2 Responses to Things No One Told me about being married

  1. mom says:

    Aww…now you made me cry and I can’t stop! You are missed greatly but at least you’re nearby. I love you!!! sniff, sniff…

  2. Caitlin says:

    Great post! It’s making me stop and think about the legacy I’m preparing to make.

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